“When you plant lettuce, if it does not grow well, you don’t blame the lettuce. You look for reasons it is not doing well. It may need fertilizer, or more water, or less sun. You never blame the lettuce. Yet if we have problems with our friends or family, we blame the other person. But if we know how to take care of them, they will grow well, like the lettuce. Blaming has no positive effect at all, nor does trying to persuade using reason and argument. That is my experience. No blame, no reasoning, no argument, just understanding. If you understand, and you show that you understand, you can love, and the situation will change””
“Your life will no longer be ruled by expectations – This results to less frustrations and disappointments and more satisfaction.
You will enjoy more space even with all your existing emotions
You can better relate to the world – You will start seeing it as what it actually is, instead of viewing it based on your own concepts and standards. That said, you have higher chances of appreciating those around you, allowing you to embrace long-lasting and genuine happiness.
You will have better mental clarity – This allows you to see things based on what is true as you won’t attach yourself to limiting mental concepts.
You will have less worries – Things and scenarios around you will have less impact on you, no matter how negative they are.”
“Helping will become a natural part of your system – You will most likely be a Good Samaritan as your detachment will naturally compel you to extend your help to those who need it the most. The good news is that you won’t be too attached to the results of your good deeds.
You will feel free – This feeling of space and freedom is actually genuine. This makes it easier for you to be content with everything that’s happening to you right now.”
“You become more compassionate – Problems affecting the world will no longer stir too much anger on you. In fact, it will cultivate compassion.
You will be genuinely happy – If you practice detachment, you will be satisfied with what you have. You get the chance to enjoy what is present, instead of running after happiness desperately.
You let your life unfold and flow naturally – There is no need for you to control all the things around you.
You continue to love – Loving will become a natural part of you – In fact, you will notice your heart becoming more and more compassionate as you seek the actual sufferings of the world.”
“Take any emotion—love for a woman, or grief for a loved one, or what I’m going through, fear and pain from a deadly illness. If you hold back on the emotions—if you don’t allow yourself to go all the way through them—you can never get to being detached, you’re too busy being afraid. You’re afraid of the pain, you’re afraid of the grief. You’re afraid of the vulnerability that loving entails. “But by throwing yourself into these emotions, by allowing yourself to dive in, all the way, over your head even, you experience them fully and completely. You know what pain is. You know what love is. You know what grief is. And only then can you say, ‘All right. I have experienced that emotion. I recognize that emotion. Now I need to detach from that emotion for a moment’.””